MY BOGGY BLOG: find your way through the murk

Girls' Night Out

Last night I went out with DD and our friend D, in celebration of DD turning 13 and getting her first period. D has been a friend of the family for 14 years and is like an auntie to my kids. I wanted to have something to commemorate this coming of age event in my daughter's life, something to acknowledge that this is a special time, and I honor the changes. Something that I didn't have, nor really any women my age or older ever had about that time in their lives. You were lucky if someone bothered to tell you what menstruation was, much less celebrate it!

The funny thing about it was that I remember, back when I was 12 and on the verge of getting my period, that I really wanted to get it. My friends and I talked about it. We read fictional Judy Blume books about it. We wanted it like it was something special, and yet, once you got it the reality was a box of Kotex and some cramps. You were finally a part of the club, but the club really wasn't so great to be in.

So I wanted it different for my DD, at least in a small way. We've talked about it, and we had our special night out. Dinner at Figlio's, where she got a virgin strawberry Margarita and finished it off with Death by Chocolate cake (split three ways). We talked and laughed and spent lots of money at a nearby fabulous used book store, Booksmart. And went over D's and talked some more, sitting outside in the warm summery night we've had too few of this summer.

I know DD liked it. And now, I'm trying to think of something for her twin brother and dad to do. Boys don't have any specific thing happening at this time in their lives, but I want him to have a little celebration of changes too. We'll see what we come up with.